Tuesday, February 20, 2018

Watching The World Go By; Thoughts And Observations

My miniature alter ego and his deck chair, circa 1978

A couple of regular readers have asked what prompted yesterday's 'Open Letter'; It's the result of the proverbial 'straw that broke the camel's back', after some years - decades, really - of getting grief for what I believe in and what I've done over time. As a certain sailor that I grew up with used to say, "I've had all I can stands, and I can't stands no more!"

I've been watching the discussion that's been going on, over on Google+, and I'd like to suggest that anyone interested in gaming scroll through the comments to the one from Chgowiz about not really looking at blogs any more; I agree with him, but what I really want people to read - and absorb! - is his philosophy of gaming. It's the very best description of what people did back in the dawn of the hobby, and what I treasure in gaming.

So, 'on getting grief from people', and why I'm such a cranky old codger; let's look at a few of the straws that the poor old camel has accumulated, over the years...

Back before I married The Missus, I had a girlfriend. We had a pretty good relationship, but one of the biggest reasons why it foundered was the very negative reaction to our skin colors. We were what used to be called a 'salt-and-pepper couple', and quite a few of the people we met in the course of our lives had quite negative things to say about the two of us because of that. Later on, quite a few people - some of the same ones, too - objected to The Missus, as they felt she wasn't a suitable match for Yours Truly. (We've been together now for some thirty years.) So much for the vaunted 'Minnesota Nice'.

Regular readers will recall that I have five daughters, all of whom were adopted and each under their individual terms and conditions; we chose to be a family, and my kids are from all across every possible range of every possible spectrum. The Missus and I accepted them for who they are, not what they are, and we got a lot of grief from people we knew for doing so. My least favorite quote from a now-former friend: "Why do you spend so much time with them? They aren't your real kids, you know!"

I use miniatures in RPG games. This is, I gather, some sort of Dire Heresy. And, to make it worse, I still play the games that I played back in the day, and don't play the hottest newest thing in the business. I am, I am told, Not A Serious Gamer both for this and for using plastic figures in games that are Not Serious Games Played By Serious Gamers As Part Of A Serious Game Group.

I'm told that I oppress gays in my games, and that Prof. Barker oppressed gays in his games because he was a devout Muslim. This is news to both myself and many of Phil's gamers, as we never saw anything of the sort. I did go back and check the notes, transcripts, and audio tapes of both his and my game sessions, and I can't find anything of the sort.

I'm told that I oppress pagans, by making them game with evangelical Christians. Again, this is news to me; I don't ask what beliefs people hold when they game with me.

I'm told that I hate women and that I repress them. Back when I ran a production crew, I hired the best people I could find. It turned out that over half of them were women, and they were some of the very best technicians I ever worked with. I got a lot of grief from (male) people for doing this, which still baffles me.

I'm told that my blog is "A detriment to our business interests", and that "You need to be silenced"; one OSR publisher who told me that did so in an e-mail, following it up with a bribe; if I would submit any blog or forum posts to them for them to edit, they'd gave me trips to Gary Con and North Texas RPG Con. I declined to submit to their censorship, as I prefer to stay independent; if you look at my reviews of stuff, you'll note that I pay for what I get - no freebies. I am beholden to nobody, and I like it that way.

When I started doing this blog, years ago, all I intended was having a small corner of the Internet where I could tell you about the fun we had out at Phil's, and show you my miniatures. That's what it will continue to be, and if you can take away anything to use in your games from it, then I am happy. If you don't, that's just as fine with me, and I hope that you have fun with whatever games you play.

I haven't been enjoying the 5th Edition game I've been in until recently, when I got do have some of my kind of fun by doing miniature figures for all my fellow PCs. I really enjoyed their reactions; it made getting reamed a new one by a 5e Expert for dragging the party down by not being an expert in the rules of having a laptop / tablet / smart phone with the right apps on it for managing my own PC and being told that I should not be playing in the game because of this. "Okay," I said, "If I'm ruining the game for you, I'm out." I handed my character sheet to the GM, and that - I thought - was that. Later, the GM apologized, and the group asked me back; I thought that pretty decent of them, and so I'm enjoying some fun with some new friends.

And that, for me, is what gaming is all about. And what this blog with continue to be all about, if I have anything to say about it.

Thanks for stopping by, and I hope you enjoy this little effort.